When you see an actress like Lily Collins For whom everything seems to be going well, it is difficult for us to think that his life is not rosy. Yes, win with Emily in Paris. Yes, she got married and is happy with her husband. But there are things from the past that still affect your life.
In a chapter on how to find healthy love after abusive love, the actress opened up about a toxic relationship she had when she was barely 20 that continues to affect her today. “My romantic and toxic relationship it was a lot of verbal and emotional abuse, to make me feel so small. He used very ugly words to refer to my clothes and even called me a bitch,” he confessed to Glennon Doyle in a podcast episode We can do hard things.
“I became quite silent and settled into this silencefeeling like I had to minimize myself to be super safe,” she said of the moment.
physical symptoms
It was a complicated situation that had physical consequences. “My skin showed rashes. I had these panic attacks and I had kidney infections. I had all these weird physical manifestations, which I didn’t understand at the time, when your body says to you, ‘This is not something I should be putting up with,'” he explains of this that he felt.
“I just wanted to be what he wanted me to be, do this, don’t do that, you can wear that, you can’t. It was a lot of control and emotional abuse“, remember.
“When they tell you something over and over again, you condition yourself to believe that things are as they make you believe”, he admits, “the domino effect that this generated in me led me to ask for psychological help, because I needed to talk about itI was very angry and two weeks ago I realized that I still feel it even though ten years have passed.
A decade has passed since, but it continues to mark his daily life. “Even though I have a healthier relationship, there may be a time of day when the story suddenly returns. Your gut reacts, your heart plummets, and all of a sudden you go back to that moment when they told you that 10 years ago, even though now you’re not in that situation,” he admits.
Her husband, her great support
In 2021 he got married Charlie McDowell and it became his great support to overcome this trauma. “I’ve had those moments in the past, but I never felt like I was in a safe enough space to show it. At the time, either the person wasn’t aware or they didn’t know me well enough to see that look and know something was wrong.” But when I’m in one of his moments, it’s very clear to Charlie. He can read me like a book and he realizes“, Explain.
“This is how I can have a healthy conversation and healthy communication. When someone loving can come to your attention to tell you something is wrong and try to help you, It can be annoying, but it’s for the best.“, you accept.
It’s not quite over yet.”an alarm always goes off and the fear that carries me to this momentalthough they now have a healthy relationship.
Nobody gets rid of living something like that, the important thing is to realize and cut a situation of so much abuse.