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While for many Mexicans it is difficult to form an emotional and sexual connection with someone, there are others who have the luxury of “loving” two or more people at the same time.
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Although for cultural and religious reasons, Mexicans have learned that romantic relationships are and should be monogamous; that is to say, with only one partner at a time (from courtship to marriage), it does not mean that it is the only type of relationship that exists, although it may be frowned upon, even socially penalized.
In recent years, polyamory has grown in the country, a model of affective sexual relationship where several people are involved simultaneously. Of course, as long as everyone involved is aware of it and accepts it, as it can be seen as an alternative to infidelity.
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Of note, a 2021 study by extramarital affairs site Gleenden, of 300 Mexicans over the age of 18, found that more than half (58%) believe infidelity is a natural human behavior. , and even 57% consider that it is possible to love your partner and be unfaithful. Similarly, 67% of Mexicans confessed to having been unfaithful at some point.
“We are not biologically predisposed to monogamy and if we started to practice it it is for one reason: money was no longer enough”, explains Manuel Lucas Matheu, life member of the International Academy of Medical Sexology. .
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For the National Institute of Geography and Statistics, poly-affective relationships do not seem to exist, since within the information collected every 10 years through national censuses, only the option married or united, single, and separated , divorced or widowed. Although it could be considered “united”, there is still no source that shows us exactly what relationship figures are in this situation..
However, one of the greatest advances on this legal issue occurred in Cholula, Puebla. In 2022, a judge granted protection to a man who wanted to marry two women, affirming the unconstitutionality of articles 294 and 297 of the Civil Code of Puebla. However, they did not marry.
However, like monogamy, open relationships aren’t for everyone. And it is that once the desire to have this polyamorous experience is clear, it is time to understand what it entails and what it entails.
In the book “The Ethics of Promiscuity” by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy (a book considered the bible of polyamory), they define some of the main questions to consider:
1.- Trust, honesty and respect: These are the basic and essential points to have a healthy relationship. The ideal is naturally include new people, respecting each other’s feelings at all times. This is the only way to build trust and not to deteriorate the bond of a couple, and perhaps to strengthen it.
2.- Fidelity: Although it may surprise you, in polyamory the concept of fidelity is always present. Not focused on the sexual field, but on being faithful to the pacts and agreements of the relationship. They call it polyfidelity.
3.- Communication and negotiation: There is no single model of polyamory, so it is essential to express the needs and desires of each to reach consensus and agreements that generate security. The main thing is to get constant adaptation in front of all the situations that may arise, trying to take care of everyone’s feelings.
4.- Personal management of jealousy: Polyamory requires a lot of self-confidence, self-esteem and emotional management to be able to deal with possessive feelings, very natural in human beings. It’s about coming to see others as a source of improvement and well-being rather than a threat. It’s called compressiondefined as an empathic state of well-being experienced when another individual experiences happiness and joy in turn.
5.- Treat each couple as unique: Each of the people who form a polyamorous relationship is individual and should be treated as such. It takes dedication, timeAnd effort and one balance.
6.- Safe sex: The adoption of precautions in this area cannot be omitted. This is always an important point, but even more so if you have several sexual partners. It’s necessary avoid the risk of STDs.