Everyone regrets something and that’s not bad; on the contrary it is very good. Did they think it was wrong to do so?
In his last publication in Spanish, Daniel H. Pink draws on discourses from psychology, economics and biology to explain to readers the transformative power of one of the most misunderstood emotions we have, but at the same time, one of the most precious , potentially speaking: regret.
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With great skill and flowing, entertaining prose, Pink challenges many of the assumptions raised about human emotions and behavior. Using data from a sampling based on a global survey that he himself conducted, hand in hand with experts, the author identifies four main types of regret that humans experience.
There are basic regrets, which come to the fore with expressions such as “I wish I had saved more money” or “I wish I had taken better care of myself”; Then there are the daring regrets, those produced by not having been daring enough, they come out with an expression as if “I took advantage of this opportunity”.
After these come moral regrets; These tend to occur in people who have experienced a conjunctural event in their life and feel that due to one bad decision, bad things are happening to them again and again. With regard to this type of repentance, there is no consensus, for as to what it means to be moral, there is always some divergence; Finally, connection regrets refer to our vital relationships, regardless of ties, meeting with our parents or partners, friends, etc.
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Based on the testimonies of nearly 16,000 people from 105 countries, Pink presents these 254 pages that make up “The Power of Repentance” and exposes a new way of conceiving this emotion, in a pragmatic and accessible way.
The stories of these repentant people are enough for Pink to brainstorm a series of practical tips for rethinking regret, stopping seeing it as something bad, and seeing it as a force for good. “If we understand what people regret the most, we can understand what they appreciate the most (…) turning our regrets into a positive force that allows us to work smarter and live better, and to avoid losing sleep and anticipating future regrets,” the back cover reads.
“Some beliefs operate silently, like existential background music. Others become hymns to a way of life. Few beliefs resonate more powerfully than the doctrine that repentance is a stupid thing that wastes our time and sabotages our well-being. From all corners of culture, this message resonates. Forget the past, seize the future. Avoid the bitter, savor the sweet. A good life has a singular orientation (forward) and an unwavering valence (positive). Repentance disturbs both. It is retrograde and unpleasant, a toxin in the blood of happiness” – (Fragment).
After the success of his previous titles, “The Surprising Truth About What Motivates Us there “Selling is human”, In this book, the author shows readers how to live a richer, more engaged life, looking back, with the spirit of moving forward in every way.
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