:quality(85)//cloudfront-us-east-1.images.arcpublishing.com/infobae/VIBEOYVTDJFARFMT5QDRZP4WLM.jpeg "Dr. Becky Kennedy invites you to teach your children by listening to them in “Educating Without Fear”")
Throughout 384 pages, with the Spanish translation of Ana Camallongathe doctor’s new book Becky Kennedy It introduces readers to a series of techniques for carrying out good practice in the processes of teaching children.
creator of the method Good inside, Kennedy endeavored to deconstruct traditional parental models around two main objectives: 1. Renew the bond between parents and children. 2. Strengthen your relationship.
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For a long time, we’ve been sold a parenting model that usually doesn’t work and sends us into a spiral of frustration and boredom. We use strategies like the “thinking corner” or complex reward systems that may be effective in the short term, but do not allow us to help our children develop life skills.
In “Educate without fear”, there Dr. Kennedy shares her vision and a series of practical strategies for parents to overcome uncertainty and guilt.
Its proposal revolves around a new way of educating children, in order to ensure the well-being of the family, to equip parents with tools so that they can provide their children with what is necessary and essential to live happily, believe in themselves, intelligently manage their feelings and have empathy for their future.
“Keep this in mind: we are all wrong. Everyone, at any age, goes through difficult times where we behave in less than ideal ways. But the first years of life are especially important because our bodies begin to program how we think and react to difficult times from how our parents think and react to our difficult times. I’ll put it another way: the way we talk to each other when we’re in internal conflict – the internal dialogue of “don’t be so sensitive” or “I’m overreacting” or “I’m an idiot” or, conversely, “I’m doing the wrong thing.” I can” or “I just want to feel like I’m seen” – has to do with how our parents spoke to us or treated us in our most difficult times. This means that analysis of our answers to these “what happens next?” it is crucial to understand how our body is programmed” – (Fragment).
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Considered in the United States as “the whispering guru to millennial parents”, Dr. Becky Kennedy He has a community of nearly one and a half million followers on social media. She is a clinical psychologist from Columbia University and lately she has become a real phenomenon thanks to her method of parenting.
His book makes it clear that children do not arrive with instructions, nor advice ready to make the task of parents easier. Dr Kennedy insists that mothers and fathers usually know the kind of parenting they want to pursue, what they don’t know is how to start doing it. The author proposes something very simple, in appearance, but complex in practice: listening.
Letting children express themselves, listening to them beyond anything, allowing them to decide and make mistakes along the way, making them feel that they can experience negative things are part of their strategies.
When we warn our children so that they are not afraid, so that they are safe from everything, that is where we hurt them the most. As a result, by wanting to do everything well, we end up doing everything badly. In this way, we only manage that the children cannot have the necessary tools to have an adequate emotional education.
It is true that protection is done out of love, but in the long run it will be the children, not the parents, who will have problems in the future.
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“Millennials didn’t have a good role model for what a leader is. They made us believe that he is an overbearing and tough person who excludes others. mental health and the relevance of emotions, which make us stronger, which is why they have these conflicting feelings. Good inside presents a solid leader model, which unites the two types of leaders, an approach that allows us to feel good at home and with our friends, to connect with others and with ourselves. There haven’t been these leadership models in the past, we don’t have any examples,” the author said in a conversation with La Vanguardia in October 2022.
This book, “Educate without fear”, is not a manual, but a guide, so as not to lose sight of the fact that each boy and each girl is a world in itself. The relationships they will have with their fathers and mothers will depend on their first encounters. And this, far from being a relief, represents a certainty: listening to your children and managing what they say, with a good attitude and positivity, will allow you to trace a much more stable path which, in the long term, will be easy for them to travel.
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